Narcissism in a Frog Hat

Part One Here

building lives of sexual integrity

In the previous chapter we discussed how God created us to be sexual beings and that He intends for sex to be shared and enjoyed only within marriage. 

And he knows when you have sex because he watches you.

With that in mind, let’s talk about sexual integrity. 

Oh, let’s. 

If you want to live a life of sexual integrity, you will be undivided in your devotion to sexual purity, refusing to be controlled by your sexual passions.

How DARE you have sexual thoughts? 

You will be free to share yourself completely with your husband in a passionate sexual relationship without the scars and emotional baggage that can come with compromise. 

Yes, having sex with someone you don’t marry always brings emotional scars. 

God forbid you get experience before you commit to someone forever.

I mean, unless your previous partner was abusive or the breakup was messy, why would there be scars or baggage? Why can’t you move on and love your current partner? Sure, you wouldn’t just forget the other person, but if it was just a healthy relationship that came to an end, how would that make your current relationship less fulfilling? I mean, hell, you specifically CHOSE them over the other person, so doesn’t that count for something?

Just think how much your husband will love that you saved your sexual pleasues especially for him and that you can love him with reckless abandon, not just with your body, but also your mind, heart, and soul.

That doesn’t sound like love.

That songs like clingy, dependent infatuation. Further, that only works if your future spouse gives themselves to you just as fully. And besides, if both of you are virgins on your wedding night, can you imagine how awkward that would be? What if, after all that waiting, you find out you are not sexually compatible? Guess it’s all part of God’s plan. 

The author explains that sexuality is like a tabletop, if you remove one leg, the whole table falls over. 

Many young women would call themselves sexually pure simply because they’ve never had sexual intercourse or because they’ve never let a guy go beond their panty line.

Sex before marriage?

You’re impure. 

Dirty. 

Unclean.

Because God says so. 

This is HORRIBLE. If you want to have sex, that is fine. Enjoy yourself. If you DON’T want to have sex, how DARE you make other people feel bad about it? 

According to the Author, if you look at porn or gotten to third base, you are not pure. 

Until you are married, sexual integrity means protecting yourself from any physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual longings for the opposite sex that cannot be fulfilled according to God’s plan.

1. You must long for the OPPOSITE sex. Because, as we find out later, being lesbian makes you impure as well. (no word on asexuality.)

2. God has a PLAN that you must follow. You can’t live your own life, that’s sinful. That’s wrong. And this is something that has always bothered me. I want to be allowed to live my own life, without the input of an overbearing father in the sky. 

When you marry, sexual integrity will equte to intimately connecting physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually with your husband and no other man outside your marriage. 

That doesn’t rule out polgyamy, does it?

But WHY marriage? it’s just a ceremony. It only has meaning because we say it does. The marriage cermony doesn’t change who you are. Why does it matter that people exchange rings before they have sex?

You won’t […] entertain sexual fantasies. 

Why? 

Is it ANY of your buisness what I think about?

No.

No, it is not.